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Marriage Advice – From You!

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Married 2 weeks and I’m already giving advice?!

No.  Not even I am that arrogant confident.

When I shared that I got married, I asked you guys for advice.  You delivered!  Since there were so many wise words, I decided to summarize it to share with everyone.  Mostly for Vegas’ my reference.

Below are some wise words, some funny words, and some random married-life pictures.

Apparently you still get flowers delivered when you’re married.

“Don’t take your partner for granted. Continue to make the effort to appreciate them as your partner and your best friend. It’s easy to let that go as the years pass.” -Christine @ Love, Life, Surf

“Hire a maid… I cannot tell you how much my husband and I fought over cleaning chores which were easily solved by splitting a housekeeper once a week!” –Courtney Bentley

“Sometimes you have to give up and give in. Winning an argument might make you happy for a moment, but it can hurt your relationship. It’s better to be happy than to be right.” -Sue

“I suggest at least one of you get really good at making coffee and bringing it to the other one while wearing very little. It’s worked for me for a while. FYI, I make terrible coffee.” -Cat @ Breakfast Before Bed

Champagne Breakfast – Red Velvet Waffles for Vegas

“Appreciate every minute together, but stay a little single too, have tons of spontaneous adventures and talk things out.” -Lucie @ FitSwissChick

“At least once a month plan something special to do together – keeps the love fresh.” –Dietitian Jess

“Remember to have sex a lot. When you’re with someone for a long time, sometimes it seems more important to vacuum the rug. It’s not.” -Lee @ In My Tummy

“Don’t forget to talk to your spouse. Like really talk not just about the day to day stuff.” – Angela @ Fit Happy Mamma

Watching the horizon in Arizona

“Make it a habit to say something nice every day, like “your hair looks good today or I appreciated how you handled this…” etc. I think it’s nice to just stop and take a moment to do things like that.” -Di

“Be kind.” -Beth

“Choose your battles. There are going to be things that annoy the crap out of you about your partner, that’s life. You either accept them or don’t and you move on because you’re not going to change that person. I used to get mad over little things… leaving dirty utensils on the counter, boxers on the floor… but that’s my husband and no matter how many times I gripe, it’s not going to change. Those little things, those are the things that build up to cause big fights. let them go and move on. It takes me 5 seconds to put his forks in the dishwasher.” -Taylor @ Lifting Revolution

“Keep the sex dirty and the fights clean.” -Alex @ Alex Tries it Out

“Laugh. Always find the thing to laugh at.” -Kristina @ Spa Bettie

First night out together in Vegas

“A wise friend once said to me ‘think of it this way- in ten years, is it really going to matter?’ Applies to so much! When you only have a little time together, as most marrieds do as we work and play and all, spend that time together in harmony and love. I might not like some of his choices in clothing but in ten years, it won’t matter what shirt he had on, just that we did that adventure.” -Morgan

“1. Communicate. So cliche, I know, but so true – much better to get it out and work on it than keep it bottled up.

2. Get away. Life together every day is amazing, but sometimes it takes actually escaping day-to-day life to truly appreciate how awesome you are together.” -Megan @ The Lyons’ Share

“Keep DATING each other. When you stop dating, you stop connecting and laughing and looking into each others eyes.” -Melissa @ Treats With a Twist

Us in 2009. If we'd had a crystal ball...

Us in 2009. If we’d had a crystal ball…

“When you have an argument, never say something you will later regret. Once something is said, you can’t really take it back… and never threaten to leave unless you mean it. Always listen and always talk things out. Never assume the other person knows how you feel and what you’re thinking. Be confident on who you are and be confident about your relationship… and don’t ever let your insecurities (if you have any) create problems… and never let your life together become a dull routine, even if you get older, always keep it interesting and dynamic. Best of all… spend most of your time being silly and laugh a lot together.” -Marlin

“Don’t be an asshole.” -Alayna @ Thyme Bombe

“Forgive, forgive, forgive. Always remember the wonderful parts of your spouse and the strong parts of your relationship. Don’t focus on the bad or weaker parts. When you focus on the good, it will blossom!” -Carrie @ Season It Already

“Talk. A lot. Your partner should be your best friend.” -Heather @ FITaspire

“It’s best not to argue when hungry.” -Jess @ Keeping It Real Food

We’ll never go hungry. Or champagne-less. Except during competition prep.

“Never let the sun go down on an argument.” – Jen @ Chase the Red Grape

“It’s ok to go to bed angry and yelling is still a form of communication.” Allie

Janet @ The Taste Space shared two really great links.

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All marvelous words of wisdom, but my favorite is either hire a maid (you know I will!) or have sex a lot (no argument there).

What is you favorite piece of relationship advice?

Do you think it’s bad go to bed mad?  I know from the past that sometimes I gotta cool down.

Comments

  1. Oh wow this is a great compilation!! I think my favourite relationship advice, regardless of the kind of relationship, is to communicate…so basic yet effective!

  4. These are so cool! Look at how any people care about you two! I’ve never been married and probably never will meet a man who can tolerate my multitasking craziness, but I agree you should never go to bed angry.

    • Ha! Never say never. I just watched Vegas eat turkey and veggies cold out of a cup because that’s my diet plan. NEVER thought I’d find someone so willing to put up with my insanity.

  5. Hahaha I love these tidbits. I can definitely concur with many oft them, having been married for almost 2 years now. W never fought about chores, but having a maid is like a gift from heaven.

    And just forgive and forget the small stuff–let them know that it is bothering you, admit that you aren’t perfect, and then move on. But communication is everything.

  6. I don’t think it’s a bad thing to go to bed mad. Sometimes I’m just not ready to stop being mad just because it’s bed time.

    I didn’t realize you guys have known each other for that long!

  7. Lots of awesome advice there! Jason and I have been together 19 years, married 14 1/2. Honestly, sometimes it’s best for ME to go to bed pissed off, fight unfinished so that I don’t say stupid things. I can sleep on it, wake up the next day and think more clearly. And usually the argument doesn’t mean nearly so much the next day.

  9. I would say to FORGIVE A LOT. haha. Be patient too and say nice things everyday. I still need to work on that. LOL! Love ya’ll!

  12. sounds like you two already have some great traditions (sunrises and champagne are two necessaries in life), and these wise words from friends will fill in the rest.

    I personally like Cat’s coffee idea…

  15. This actually made me feel a little weepy, reading all of those comments. 🙂 I’m so stinkin’ happy for you. Now send me some available dates so I can hang out with you and catch up please!

  23. I’m loving all the “have tons of sex” comments!! This is especially true when you have kids…you have to remember that fun sex is so much better then trying to have a baby sex!

  24. Great advice!!
    I prefer going to bed mad over separating for the day mad. Those days are the worst – especially if you can’t contact your spouse to apologize during the day:)

    • Strictly because I’d already written the post when you commented. I don’t discriminate on the basis of sex toys.

  33. So now I’m going to get on my soap box. You and Vegas are women. You’re married. Your friends and fans give (great) marriage advice. Every piece of that advice is about being married. This article could appear on any blog about marriage anywhere in the world. There’s no gay advice or traditional advice. It is just marriage advice – as it should be.

    • You know… I didn’t think about that until you commented. Pretty amazing… I love how fast our society is evolving.

  34. I AM STILL IN SHOCK AND AWE THAT YOU GOT MARRIED BECAUSE…

    1. I REMEMBER YOUR POST WHERE YOU SAID all you needed was your vibrator, LMFAO
    and
    2. I wasn’t invited

    THANKS. However, I guess I kind of feel like I was there because I have been seeing ALL of your photos!

    • Vegas and I are both still shocked. LOL!

      We’ll be closer now… maybe a reenactment with Elvis?!

  35. Congratulations and best wishes! xoxo

    I hear all the time that communication is most important in a relationship.. I think a lot falls under that umbrella, as well. 🙂 My Mom always said her favorite thing about my Dad is that he makes her laugh. I think that’s most important! <3

  37. I’m so happy that you shared this advice. I’ve been married for 53 days! I’m with you on wanting the wisdom of those who are living it! Good luck — I wish you so much happiness, Laura! 🙂

    • Thanks Erin! We’re at 3 weeks today… crazy how time flies! Much happiness to you too. 🙂

  39. Congratulations! So exciting you got married. Gay marriage is still not legally recognized here in Australia. I hope that cchanges quickly. I don’t want to explain how ridiculous and unfair that is to my kids!

  40. How did I miss that you’re married?!?! Congratulations! 🙂
    I like the advice about being a couple, but having your own hobbies and adventures.

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